refactor: introduce database provider abstraction, isolate MSSQL layer

- Add provider contract (src/providers/provider.js): query() -> {rows,
  rowsAffected, insertId}, callback transaction(fn), exec() for stored
  procs, initialize/purge lifecycle
- Add MssqlProvider (src/providers/mssql/index.js) wrapping an mssql
  ConnectionPool with normalized results, tx commit/rollback and
  constraint-error classifiers (unique 2627/2601, FK 547)
- LibDashStore constructor now takes a provider instead of a pool
  (breaking); adds LibDashStore.create() async factory; keeps pool as
  transitional bridge until store modules are converted (see TODO.md)
- Move MSSQL-specific code into the provider: src/sql/* ->
  src/providers/mssql/queries/*, src/schema.js ->
  src/providers/mssql/schema.js, purge SQL -> purgeSql.js
- Update scripts, generate-schema-graph.js and package.json exports
  (./providers/mssql, ./providers/provider)
- Add TODO.md with the remaining provider/SQLite migration plan

No SQL or behavioral changes.

scripts/purge-db.js

@@ -1,6 +1,6 @@
 import 'dotenv/config';
 import sql from 'mssql';
-import { buildPurgeSql } from '../src/sql/purge.js';
+import { buildPurgeSql } from '../src/providers/mssql/purgeSql.js';
 
 const pool = await sql.connect({
   server: process.env.MSSQL_SERVER,